Monday, 10 March 2014

Motivational Monday #8


Aloha Sprinklerinos,

Merry Monday you little munchkins of motivation. Too much? Yeah, maybe.

I hope your weekends were delightful and that you are ready to face the week with a glad heart and a happy face.

I saw this quote last week and thought it was excellent.

For the mostest of years I have struggled with who I wanted to be. Or, moreover, who I thought I should be. Some people wanted me to be clever, some people wanted me to be a career woman, some people wanted me to be a stay-at-home-mummy/wifey, some people wanted me to be quiet and pretty to look at, some people wanted me to be this, that, the other and everything else. It was exhausting.

I found myself trying very, very hard to please everyone. Once, about 10 years ago, I had a male friend who I regarded far too highly, say to me, 'I think girls are these lovely creatures who are hairless and pretty and smell nice and that's just perfect to me'. I heard that as, 'Louise, to be perfect you need to shave everything to within an inch of it's life, change the way you look and wear perfume 24/7'.

In reality, this probably wasn't the message he was trying to give me (I actually think he was just being nostalgic about the girlfriend who had just split with him!) but it's what I took from it. I never stopped to think that his view of perfection was only one view or that his view of perfection was as valid as my own view, I just took it as gospel and proceeded to spend plenty of time with a box of veet and feeling substandard. Not cool.

Frustratingly, I still do this a bit now. I'll hear someone say something about somebody else and feel I need to live up to the same standard in order to be as attractive as them, as successful as them, as whatever as them. It's such wasted effort.

Coco had it right. A girl should be two things- who and what she wants. If I want to let my leg hair grow with free abandon, why shouldn't I? If I'm not as pretty as Uni Guy's ex, have I failed? If I forgo a spritz of perfume, am I not as worthy as those who smell like all the delights of a summer meadow?

NO.

 It's funny because when I'm going about my life, just plodding on, I am REALLY happy. BUT, it only takes one person to say one thing and I find myself having a little wobble of self resolve. This week I am going to focus on this quote and when I find myself self doubting or questioning who I am, I will remind myself that I am who and what I want to be and that I am proud to be that person.

I'm going to focus on living up to only my own standards and not bending or shaping myself into being something other people want and encourage you to do the same. It's a classic but I think that as long as you are doing your best, that's all you need to be.

Am I the only one who feels this way or do you ever find yourself having a little wobble too? Want to work on it together?

Toodlepip!

xx

Contributor - Louise

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128 comments:

  1. What a wonderful post Louise, I could not agree more! Have a lovely Monday!
    Lauren x
    Totallylola2013.blogspot.com

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  2. I get this constantly! I think the worst might be my friends telling me off for being terrible at story telling and jokes. I actually find myself worrying about it. Maybe I need to have words, because like you say; when Im doing my own thing and not worrying about it im very happy. Thanks Louise :) x

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    1. Your friends are there to support you, not knock your confidence! I'm sure they're not perfect either. If you find yourself laughing it off when they make digs at you then try just staying quiet instead. It's not like you're having a full strop but you're not encouraging them. Failing that, have words, and if they don't learn you should move away from them maybe. Good luck!

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  3. Love this ♥ I feel like this also, sometimes I act really different like another personality and it somehow feels fake

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  4. Lovely post. Feel so motivated ��

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  5. I'm the same way. For the longest time, everyone would always tell me I was so shy and quiet so I spent like half of my life believing that's all I was and that that's all I was capable of being. I'm slowly starting to overcome it now (even though I'm in my 20's) and it's been great having moved to a new location and starting over, getting to be anyone I want to be. :) x

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    1. Ahhhh, I hate it when people tell people who they are. It's like we're told we're this one person and that's all we can be when it's not true! I'm so happy to see that you're moving on from all of that negativity!

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  6. Oh I love this post so much. I think EVERY girl/woman feels this way (which also says something about the world we live in but...that's a different topic) I absolutely adore that quote. I plan on working on this as well. Thank you for sharing! :)
    xxx
    Vanessa
    www.justcallmeness.blogspot.com

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  7. I really needed this little pick me up this monday morning before school! I constantly feel judged and inadequate to everyone this year but I now know that I am my own person and need to stop comparing myself to others and trying to meet certain views, thanks Louise x

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  8. Ah I'm the same hun, I once made the mistake of saying to a not so nice ex, what's your ideal woman and he said my best friend!!! And she's an ex model!! I spent the whole relationship swinging between feeling inadequate and jealous of my best friend

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  9. I'm exactly the same I always try to live up to everyone's expectations and don't really know who I am. I'd love to be able to find myself and realise what I want! Love you Louise! <3

    dellalovesnutella.blogspot.co.uk

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  10. Your post are really great when it is monday morning and you have to be at school at 7:45 a.m. :D
    I love to read them ♡

    enjoy your day :)
    littlemscrazy.blogspot.com

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  11. Ha ha, that's brilliant.

    Sophie x

    http://your-girl-is-lovely.blogspot.co.uk

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  12. I have this wobble too and it frustrates me because I know I need to ignore it when people say something that gets to me as: 1) they wouldn't have meant it maliciously and 2) I am happy with who I am. It's so annoying when I doubt myself and because of this post, this week and past this week, if someone throws me off with a comment, I'm simply going to ignore the urge to think into it!

    thegirlinthemoonlight.blogspot.co.uk

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  13. I completely agree with every word of this. It seems as though growing up, we always put ourselves under immense pressure to please everybody else and we think that being who be want to be is not only not good enough, but also some sort of an irrelevant opinion that we have. And this sucks because while we may grow out of that later on, our teenage years really shape us as a person, and it's hard to break out of that later...

    But great post, and very inspirational as well as motivational!

    Laura ♥
    http://likecubed.blogspot.com

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  15. Lovely post louise!!
    I often try to please everyone and get myself in such a pickle as i do so!
    Great post xox

    Child abuse survivor blog;
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  16. Lovely post louise!!
    I often try to please everyone and get myself in such a pickle as i do so!
    Great post xox

    Child abuse survivor blog;
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  18. Fab post Louise. I'm a guy but even I can relate to this - the feeling of having to live up to standards dictated by others when really we should just focus on being the best version of ourselves :) www.mrjoiee.com

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  19. This was an absolutely amazing post! It was just what needed. Thank you so much :)
    xxx

    www.thekazlightanthem.blogspot.com

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  20. You are pretty in every way, if you are yourself. I tried to be somebody else for a long while, but now I feel comfortable with myself. Because I let myself be. Just keep telling yourself, you are beautiful in the way you are right now.

    xoxo Anne

    http://lifeasarollingstone.blogspot.com

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  21. Great post Louise, I feel this sometimes with people having an expectation of you and if you decide to not follow it they make you feel bad, but i've tried to learn to just let it go over my head, let them think they've been heard, and continue making my own success my own way :)
    Lauren x
    Britton Loves | Fashion Lifestyle + Photography - www.brittonloves.blogspot.co.uk
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  22. Awesome quote! And so damn accurate!

    Kat B
    Katience

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  23. What a lovely and inspiring post louise! I couldn't agree with you anymore and this is something that I am going to work on as well, so you have me on board!
    Molly x

    http://violetsandaisy.blogspot.com.au

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  24. This post actually was what I was just thinking this morning. I'm still trying to pleas other people, especially my parents. And now I'm unhappy with how things are at the moment and I really want to change it. But if I do what I want, then they will have a lot of negative comments on everything I do. So that's not something to look forward to. But I think I've tried to pleas them for a long enough time and now it's time to make myself happy. SO I'm all in! :)

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  25. Such an inspiring post, especially in today's society where there seems to be so much expected of us. You're a beautiful person inside and out Louise, don't let anyone tell you otherwise!! You go girl! xoxo

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  26. I LOVED this! What a great way to start your week! <3 Thank you!

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  27. When I was growing up people said stupid things about me because I was a tomboy and people around me still think I'm a substandard ugly freak because I don't like what they think a girl should or I don't look pretty. I hate every advert and every person who thinks there's an ideal, one thing you should look like. I couldn't look like that if I tried, and I don't want to. I wish more people understood that behind that image or face there is a real person. When someone judges me for being ugly or boyish I don't think people know I am a sentient being inside a body, and I'm just trying to live like everyone else is. I can't be anyone but myself.

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  28. Such a truthful and inspirational post! I think we, as women, pay far too much attention to other people's opinions even though we have a great intuition of our own. I hope we can all find a way to listen to our gut more and block out the comments of others.

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  29. I love this quote. It's so true! Keep being who you are.
    Hannah | twoforjoy | xo

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  30. People are everything you have, love and want to live your life with and at the same time they are the monsters of your life.
    It's so inspirational. I love this post.


    thank you Louise for this words!

    in Love

    Sarah
    morethanyoueverknow.blogspot.de

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  31. I'm always worrying and having a bit of a wobble so I will definitely be working on this with you!
    Thank you for these words :)

    Eilidh | http://letsgetwonderfullylost.blogspot.co.uk/
    xx

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  32. I love this post so much. I hate it that us women feel like in order to be attractive we have to be society's version of aesthetically pleasing. It's sad that sometimes we feel we can't just be let alone to be ourselves. Thank you for sharing - you feel the exact same as I do!

    cosmoopolitan.blogspot.co.uk

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  33. I totally get what you mean, there are plenty of times when I struggle with feelings of inadequacy, especially when everyone around me seems to be going out and achieving things, or have amazing talents, etc. but I'll keep reminding myself of this quote. At the end of the day, the only person you should be aiming to please is yourself! Thanks for another great post, Louise! xo

    http://ciarapocket.blogspot.ie

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  34. definitely not alone! I felt like that all throughout high school and even for a bit after. Not a fun feeling :( It took weeks of being on my own, and finding who I am a little more to figure out we're all the same, and just as equally different at the same time.

    Every one has different "standards" and we're going to tire ourselves trying to fit them all. So it's so much easier to have your own and just stick by them! :D

    Xx.

    natasharideout.blogspot.ca

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  35. What a lovely post, Louise! You are such an inspirational women and so many of us can relate to this. I am still struggling to find who exactly I want to be but I believe there's a light at the end of the tunnel!

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  36. Such a truthful and inspirational post :) sadly there are so many expectations for us ladies but we just need to rise above it and become happy and confident in ourselves xx


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  37. Great post Louise, Coco was indeed right! I'm going to try this too!

    http://mividabonitaa.blogspot.nl/

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  38. I love this post. Thankyou so much for being such a great inspiration to me. You really help me try and do what I want to do and help me to not care about what other people think. This post really helped me today because I was in quite a bad mood from thinking about what others thought of me and this reminded me that other peoples perception of me doesn't matter. I love reading your blog, it always puts me in a good mood! I would love it if you would take a look at my blog.

    http://flairdelafrance.blogspot.com

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  39. I totally agree with you. One thing can really make you question who you are and make you want to change your habits in order to please others. I think that being who you are and being happy in yourself is all you need as there are always going to be people who are trying to put you down or make you feel substandard!
    Lovely post xx

    makeupandmacaroons.blogspot.co.uk

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  40. thank you louise, i really needed this today :) x
    http://my--socalledlife.blogspot.com.es/

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  41. Hi Louise
    I just got one question. What if I really don't know what or who I want to be? I have been asking this question to myself lately, because I'm going through a phase where I need to make some huge decisions, like what I want to do with my live once I finished school. I feel like I'm supposed to know what I want to be or do but I have to be honest I have no clue. I've been doing one little step at a time but I have to say it's hard!
    xx Chantal :D

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  42. For a long time, I worried about what other people would think of me. I think everyone does! But then I realized life is too short to give a crap about what others think of you. My big quote is "Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind." How true!

    xxTanya
    minacoleta.tumblr.com

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  43. Oh my goodness, Louise, your words in this post are PERFECT. I swear, it could have all come right out of my mouth (or my fingertips). I feel the exact same way. I'll go about my day, doing whatever, walking through the city in the sunshine, whatever, and feel really happy and confident and it'll only take one person who says something or even a picture of someone or even me looking at another woman who looks the way I'd like to look, and my confidence (and day) are ruined. It's unbelievable how we put ourselves down! The comparisons just need to stop.
    I'm right there with ya, Louise! xx
    www.lipsticksandchocolates.blogspot.com

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  44. By far your best motivational monday yet! I want to print that quote and hang it somewhere I can see it everyday! Goes perfectly with what I think I finally achieved in 2013, which is to have more self-confidence!
    I even wrote about it here: http://happylifeofacitygirl.blogspot.com/2014/03/you-know-you-are-confident-person-when.html

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  45. I am forever trying to fight a battle with myself over my self confidence, and it is sooo tiring! You are not on your own, I can get dressed, do my hair and makeup all nice, strut into work thinking 'hey I look ok today' and then I can hear someone say 'oh isn't her hair beautiful' about someone else and suddenly I am in the toilets looking at my hair feeling like it looks like basil brush is sitting on my head. I think it's something all girls feel, I think it's a rarity for a girl to be 100% confident all the time. Sometimes it feels like other people are though, and you look at someone and think oh they are so confident in how they look, but they could be looking at you thinking, oh I wish I had her hair, or I wish my legs were like hers. Like you say, you have to remember that you don't have to have the perfect hair or the perfect outfit every day to be pretty and it doesn't mean you are any less pretty than someone else if you don't have perfect winged eyeliner one day! :) Bit of an essay there sorry, I got a bit carried away haha!
    Love your blog Louise, you always post things I can seriously relate to! :)
    xxx

    http://xosarah-loves.blogspot.co.uk/

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  47. This was so inspiring~

    theexposedcloset.blogspot.com

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  48. Loved this post! So inspiring and motivational, you are the best!

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    1. aha i agree she is the best!!

      ChatterBoxFangirl.blogspot.com

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  49. I think that sums up how a lot of people feel Louise! Its sad that we all feel we have to live up to this idea of perfection when in reality we set the standards for ourselves, very inspiring! Made my Monday :) xxx

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  50. I love this post Louise, you're so inspiring! Coco definitely had it right. Working on my self confidence and trying to figure out who and what I want to be is one of my main aims for this year. I'm 100% joining you on this mission!

    xxx

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  51. It often becomes easier with age to realize that you are placing more importance on other people's opinions than your own. Once you see that, it gets easier to weigh what others say against your own values and scale, allowing you to accept the bits you want and dismiss as "just their opinion" what bits you don't. There's still respect for others but it's tempered by respect for yourself.

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  52. I love Coco's quotes! This post is truly lovely, it's how a lot of people feel and we should just be who we want!
    http://loudoesbeauty.blogspot.co.uk/

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  53. Thank you so much for this inspiring post, Louise! I often place more importance to other people's opinion than to mine. Also I don't do things because I think: "What may other people think about me then?" On somedays I'm catching myself thinking: "Don't I look fat in what I wear? Isn't my face too ugly today?"
    I have to figure out who and what I want to be. I'll definitly join you on your mission!! Coco was so right!
    Made my Monday a better day! Thank you ♥
    Lära♥

    http://laera-and-the-ireland-adventure.blogspot.de/

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  54. I loved this post! I often feel like I should change to be as good as someone else is, and tend to forget that I should just be the best version of myself. We are individuals. There is no single image of perfection. We are all perfect versions of ourselves. Thanks for reminding me :-)

    Katie x
    www.starrydayss.blogspot.com

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  55. I love you Louise. I'm having a really down day, and your blog posts always cheer me up. They are so encouraging and jolly! <3

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  56. I couldn't agree with you more Louise. I did a very similar post on my blog on Sunday about women (and men, or any other gender for that matter!) having the right to their own choice.

    This year I've really found myself caring less and less about what other people think about me, and really doing things for me. Although I'm not 100% there (and I doubt that there are many people that are) I feel so much stronger for it.

    Emily x - prettypleaseblog.co.uk

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  57. This is SUCH a cute post. I love your motivational Mondays :)

    imogen // imogenscribbles

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  58. Literally Love how inspiring this post is and the rest love you louise

    ChatterBoxFangirl.blogspot.com

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  59. love love love motivational mondays!
    they give me little moments of realization that I'm not perfect and I don't need to try and fit into other people's expectations. Thanks Louise xx

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  60. Thanks Louise! I definitely feel like this sometimes (most of the time) too.
    Both feeling like I need to meet (or exceed) people's expectations but also having no confidence in myself to do so. I often think about the time I would save and the things I could do if I wasn't worrying about my skin, my weight, my hair, etc and focused on doing things I want to do and am good at.
    It's a work in progress I guess, but I am really enjoying your motivational mondays posts! Reminding myself of these things helps!

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  61. Dear Louise

    I’m sorry I’m going to dictate one more thing of who you should be but I just have to, you owe yourself and us to be a writer and write a book already!

    I think you’re already who you are and what you wanna be, EVERYTHING you talk about makes me so happy.. and I think it’s just because of how much you’re true to yourself with no filters whatsoever. I think comparison is what pushes us sometimes. It can make you miserable momentarily, but then once you shake it off you realize that the best version of the real you isn't even finalized. It’s a simple process of growing up and refining :)

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  62. I love this - thank you for sharing! I have never commented on a blog before but this one touched me and I related to it, I just had to tell you!

    Happy Monday to you too! xoxo

    http://rachellouise2.blogspot.co.uk

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  63. Yet another fabulous, motivational Monday! Thanks Louise! :)

    http://t.co/VVc1QhjRnb | Joanna Tales xx

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  64. I can relate entirely. I myself do this too often but I can honestly say I'm getting a little bit better, but still it is so lovely to read something like this and know that I'm not alone with my thoughts! :-)

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  65. Love this motivational Monday post. I am struggling with self confidence a lot after having cancer and loosing my hair. I have also lost a lot of weight but gained a lot after leaving hospital. My hair is growing now but the littlest thing can put me in a bad mood. For instance I will have to use my ID and my driving licence photo is me before having cancer with long blonde hair, I now have short brown hair and people say well what a difference...I just feel like well I didn't choose to chop all my hair off. This is a great motivational monday quote and I will use this this week :)

    www.aspoon-full-ofsugar.blogspot.co.uk

    Elisha
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  66. Oh Louise, I'm so happy to read that I'm not the only one. We always think we're not good enough. If everyone would live up to the same standards, everyone would be the same. Now that would be very boring. You are the best friend in your own life, so we should better listen to ourself instead of trying to be someone else.
    This is a very helpful post. Thanks!
    Have a lovely week!

    Sofie x
    Little green Sofie

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  67. perfect
    http://sofikasthoughts.blogspot.gr/

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  68. Great post Louise! A woman should always remember to dress for THEMSELVES and no-one else!

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  69. Great post! I think a lot of girls can relate to this. An inspirational quote that we should always remember. :)

    http://jilliansmetime.blogspot.co.uk/

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  70. This is great! It's always best to be who you want to, not who everyone else wants you to be. I think people forget that too often.

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  71. Great post! I love these quotes x


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  72. Such a good post! So many people have different views of what you should be and what direction you should take. This is a great quote to remember. Everyone is unique and everyone has their own path to travel.

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  73. Yes. I feel this so so so much. Like I'm not making enough of my life according to other people. It's a really horrible feeling. And then I start thinking it too. A lot of the time I feel like I'm not doing enough/have a good job/making enough money. Trying to get out of that mindset is pretty difficult for me.

    Christina
    http://kissesandflowers.blogspot.com/

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  74. Aww thanks for this motivational post! It really helped me and I'm sure it will help many other people too

    http://everydayingrace.blogspot.ca/

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  75. This was great, Louise! Your Motivational Mondays help get me through my week. Thank you so so so much.

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  76. This is so true! You most definatly shouldn't change just because of what someone else says! :)
    Ellie,xx
    Elephant stories and more

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  77. Louise, this is exactly how I feel. I'm still trying to find who I am as a person, what I stand for or exactly what I want from life. I'm 24 and feel a bit closer than where I was 5-10 years ago, but still feel like a little girl lost in this big wide world. I hope I start to understand myself come my later twenties and be wise in my decisions.
    Thank you for this quote and your honesty - good luck to you !

    Haley xx
    kyleandhaley.com

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  78. I think everyone has the wobble, even the most confident of girls will feel like that I bet!
    Loved the honesty of this post, I've totally been there too! Luckily I'm not half as bad as I was when I was younger but I still have those moments now and again. Thanks for sharing!



    www.violetdaffodils.blogspot.co.uk
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  79. I love your phrase "wobble of self resolve", that's a perfect description for the second guessing I as well do when someone comments on a quality or appearance that I know I do not possess. Thanks for your words of wisdom, I love your Motivational Mondays!

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  80. I sometimes find myself feeling the same way. I will be doing great and then all of a sudden someone says something and I can't help but compare myself to the statement they made. I would love to work on who I am and who I want to me along with you!!

    xoxo

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  81. This is absolutely amazing Louise! This is by far my favorite post that I have read in the past couple of weeks!! I think this is something that all teenage girls should read, it just made me so happy to read this because all through high school i felt like I wasn't as fashionable, popular, or attractive as the other girls. I just wanted to let you know that you are one of my role models and I love reading your blog as well as watching your videos on youtube! Ashton x photobeautyguide.blogspot.com

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  82. Ugh absolutely love it, I always find myself doubting myself and I feel what you said is true and I should start joining you in doing the same thing which is not caring what anybody thinks and to just be happy doing what you love or dressing however you feel, Thanks for this :)

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  83. hey Louise and anyone who reads this.........
    first of all, i love you so much Louise, i subscribe to you and watch all your videos. i really wish i could meet you at playlist live or vidcon or something :(
    anyway, i wrote this piece of writing for english. it's called "flash fiction" i think. we were supposed to capture a single moment. i wrote this piece out of the simplicity of my thoughts, but also based on a few true facts about me. here it is... (also if anyone could help me out with a title for it that would be great)

    Shuffling along in the line, she thinks. She thinks of how this could most possibly become the best day of her life. She thinks of how happy this will make her, throughout all the dark times she’d been going through. Looking at the fading cuts on her wrists, she beams inside. Excited screams erupt; she knows they’re coming out now. She stands there for a moment, the scene processing in her head. Peering over all of the heads in front of her, she sees her four superheroes. They’re so close to her it almost doesn’t seem real. She can see the deep red and black hair of the one called Michael, the black as night lip piercing of the ecstatic one called Luke, the one called Ashton who had a smile equivalent to a thousand suns and cavernous dimples, and the loving brown eyes of the one called Calum. As they make their way onto the stage, the line begins to move. “This is it”, she thinks to herself. She was finally going to meet her idols, her favorite band, her mentors, her everything. A group of eager girls are the first to meet them, cupping their hands over their mouths to prevent themselves from getting too emotional. She sees that most everyone is with at least one other person, but she’s not. She’s been alone her whole life, why change now? Minutes pass, and her turn soon comes around. They’re right in front of her now with bright faces, waiting for her to approach. She stands in front of them, too emotional to do anything. Her mouth doesn’t speak, but her eyes do. They tell the story of a girl who had felt inferior all her life, until a band called 5 Seconds of Summer came along and helped her get up whenever she fell. The four boys began to embrace her as tears stain her face, and the one called Calum sees her faded wrists, holds them and says, “Don’t ever do that again, okay?” She nods and pulls together long enough to say, “You guys saved my life.” As the boys and she pull away, she looks up to see all four of them wiping away their tears, a mix of sadness and happiness. She didn’t even need to tell them her story; her actions spoke louder than words. The one called Luke steps forward and says, “You’re beautiful and you should know that. We’re here for you. Always.” The feeling of hearing that meant the world to her, more than anyone would ever know. Security was coming over now, telling the group that they had to move on to the next group of fans. She didn’t mind, the few minutes she had just spent with them would satisfy her for the rest of her life. With one more extensive embrace, she breaks away from the group as they say their goodbyes and for the first time in her life, she feels whole again. As she walks away, a joyful smile forms on her face, something that she hadn’t been able to do in a while. Although 5 Seconds of Summer met hundreds of fans each day, they would remember her and this day, so would she. The group and she both knew that real bands save fans, and real fans save bands.

    if you enjoyed it in anyway, it would be massively helpful to spread this onto facebook, twitter, tumblr, instagram, anywhere basically. i'd really like 5SOS in particular to notice this at least :) thanks to anyone who took the time to read this :) x

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  84. love!
    xx
    daniella
    simplybeautifulelegant.blogspot.com

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  85. Louise thank you for this! I've had a rotten old day today and consequently much wobblage has occurred. This has helped me sooo much for the rest of my week, could not be more grateful xx

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  86. this is the exact same problem i have louise. i am a very positive, joyous teen that isn't afraid to speak my mind! i am like 70% confident in myself and i always tell my self I'm beautiful..and i always believe in myself. but, every once in a while, there is that one stranger or person that has to set a standard and ruin my day. it sucks! but i can relate to this post soooo much. i think it just takes a little practice. because after all it affects many people in this world!

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  87. Truthful, inspiring, relative, honest and courageous. Thank you for words that ease my mind!

    AMYCINO come meet my doggies!!!!
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  88. I'm very much the same and this is a fantastic post which I think sums up every woman from time to time. Coco was a wise lady, she's got a million quotes to live your life by! Thanks for such lovely reading, really enjoyed this...and you are fabulous so you've nothing to worry about :)

    K xxx
    Idreamofcoco.blogspot.co.uk

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  89. Morning Louise I absolutely agree with you, I always find my self getting myself down over how other people are and I feel I should be the same way as them when im not. This is just an awesome post gave me the pick up I needed =) Hope you have a good day whatever your doing xx

    Amy
    amysmisunderstood.blogspot.co.uk

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  90. I love this!! I just turned 28 and decided instead of following the "safe" path I want to follow the path that makes me feel fulfilled and will allow me to live without regrets. Thank you so much for putting this up!

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  91. I love this!! I just turned 28 and decided instead of following the "safe" path I want to follow the path that makes me feel fulfilled and will allow me to live without regrets. Thank you so much for putting this up!

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  92. This post makes me happy. Thank you for this Louise. :)

    Verve Hues

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  93. I was just helping my sister write an essay about this. In the Great Gatsby Daisy says that the best thing a girl can be is a beautiful fool, and my sister and I were discussing what the best thing a girl could be really is. Lovely post!

    Madeline | Ring-a-Round a Rosey | Bloglovin’

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  94. Louise!! I think you're amazing! Can totally relate though, I think a lot of us ladies can! "Comparison is the thief of joy" is one of my favourite quotes, because it is so true when we compare ourselves someone always has to come up "short" and it's usually yourself!

    Bit embarrassing to admit this (especially as I am probably double the age of your average reader/subscriber!) but I have actually spent the last week watching pretty much every video uploaded to both of your channels, okay stalker/fangirl (can you be a fan girl at 32?!) much?! Because you're brilliant! So basically you're fab - you. For who you are so keep on being fabulous YOU! xxx

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  95. Thank's for this Louise! I definitely needed that pick-me-up!

    allamericanbeth

    xo

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  96. I so needed to read something like this today. It's true sometimes we try so hard to please others and live in someone else's shadow, or I often find myself wanting to live up to my parents/sisters/religions/society's expectations, and it just makes it really hard to find yourself and be I don't know what you want to be. I think I'll be coming back to read this a few times in the future. Thanks Louise :)
    http://signorased.blogspot.co.uk/

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  97. These posts are my favourite, Louise you always seem to understand exactly what I'm thinking - such a wonderful quote,I've always tried to think 'the only person you should be better than is the person you were yesterday!'.
    FashionableF00dBlog

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  98. Such a great post!

    I feel all girls need to be reminded of this every once in a while!

    Little Leah x

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  99. ADORE this quote Louise, you hit the nail on the head! It is so hard to please everyone else and yourself, you have it down to a T here, why are we like this ahaha! :)

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  100. You really do know how to encourage young girls to be who they are, you are genuinely such a good role model
    love ya x x x

    www.beautyandbitss.blogspot.co.uk

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  101. I am definitely going to be following this advice, it can be so hard trying to please everyone be everything everyone wants to be! There's only one you and you being you is the best and most unique thing to be :)

    http://laurenslittleblogs.blogspot.co.uk/

    xx

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  102. This is probably one of my favourite Motivational Monday posts Louise! It really helps reading this as im currently in High School and personally i think that's the place a lot of people try and find themselves and where they want to go in life and i think its important that people really just need to stay true to who they are and go by what they want as that's he only way to live truly happy in my opinion! So thanks for this blog post Louise! xxx

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  103. Sometimes it's scary when you decide who you wanna be in life to imagine everything you have to do to become so. But as the saying goes: Time will pass by anyways, so let's do something everyday that will make our dreams come true!

    My fashion blog: www.isamour.com

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  104. I'm guilty of doing things because I think it will impress people or to make myself fit in, I'm not as bad as I used to be, but I really needed to read this, thank you Louise!
    Amy xx
    messingwithadreamer.blogspot.co.uk

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  105. So weird that you right this because just this week I was feeling the same way. I always let what people say affect me and start trying to become what they think I should be. I had talk with my mom because I was having a hard time with what one person had said to me and she told me to not care what people say and be who you are and not give a damn what people think of you. Thank you so much Louise for writing this, you made me feel like I'm not alone.

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  106. I just love these motivational mondays... they inspire me soo much!!!

    I've posted something similar on my blog; i tried to motivate myself and other people & it would make my day if some of you could check it out :)
    http://gunglia.blogspot.com.br/

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  107. Well said, Louise. I just experienced something similar a few days ago and wrote about it too. I believe we are all beautiful in our own unique ways and we should embrace it :)

    Http://writermode.blogspot.com

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  108. I think it takes a few years of experience until you know who you are.
    When I was 13,14 I always tried to look like that singer,and this actor and I wanted hips like Christina Aguilera...and today:I'm fine with who I am :)

    Yours
    www.ella-liebt.de

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  109. Oh, that was such a lovely post...it made my Thursday (oops, a few days late) very motivational indeed! I liked this post a lot (and that quote was amazing) as I think I too often take what people think you should be to what I need to be!

    You're such a wonderful role model Louise, and thank you so much for being you :)

    ultravioletrae.blogspot.com

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  110. I love this quote and post Louise!
    COMPLETELY AGREE!

    nessiejudge.blogspot.com

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  111. Love this quote !!!

    http://whatwearwith.blogspot.ca/

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  112. What a great post! :) I wrote a bit about the idea of the 'sphere of influence' over on my blog the other day; it's about how humans (being social by nature) tend to really shape themselves by and for others - like, we'll suggest we love a band we've never heard of, or wear a trend we hate, or even just adopt mannerisms & styles of groups/people we admire. It's not necessarily a bad thing, until it makes us doubt ourselves like you've said in your post. I hope you're well Louise, xo!

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  113. It reminds me of the quote, "be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind!" It's so easy to get wrapped up in what people expect of you and I am always wondering what other people think about me, do they see me as I see myself? Recently I've decided to try and forget about what other people think, even if its something as simple as making a random fashion choice!

    gilly15.blogspot.co.uk

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  114. Love it, Louise! I like how you write, the way you think & your outlook in life. You're amazing <3

    jacqixo@blogspot.sg

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  115. I love that quote so much, and it's quite true. I'm sure to Uni Guy, he probably didn't mean those words, as such, maybe just phrased what he wanted to say wrong? Check out my blog please :) x
    http://lipstickandlightening.blogspot.ie/

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  116. After I became a mum, I decided that I'm going to try to always be the person my two year old views me as; the strong person that can do what needs to be done and who will always protect and love her. If that means that I won't get to shave my armpits for four days, then so be it.

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  117. Coco chanel always has good quotes, very inspirational, deffinately need to stay true to who you are instead of moulding yourself into someone you see in a magazine, instagram or telly! xx

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  118. Great quote. I personally love reading blogposts about motivation, finding yourself, and advices about basically anything. I think these kind of posts reshape the way we think and make us better people than we were before. I'll be waiting for your other motivational posts :)

    xo,
    www.colorsinmybubble.blogspot.com

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